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If you find yourself in love withsomeone who does not love you, begentle with yourself. There is nothingwrong with you. Love just didn'tchoose to rest in the other person’sheart.If you find someone else in love withyou and you don't love him/her, feelhonored that love came and called atyour door, but gently refuse the giftyou cannot return. Do not takeadvantage, do not cause pain.How you deal with love is how you dealwith you, and all our hearts feel thesame pains and joys, even if our livesand ways are different.If you fall in love with another, andhe/she falls in love with you, andthen love chooses to leave, do not tryto reclaim it or to assess blame, letit go. There is a reason and there isa meaning. You will know in time.Remember that you don't choose love.Love chooses you. All you can reallydo is accept it for all its mysterywhen it comes into your life. Feel theway it fills you to overflowing, thenreach out and give it away.Give it back to the person who broughtit alive in you.Give it to others who deem it poor inspirit. Give it to the world aroundyou in anyway you can. There is wheremany lovers go wrong. Having been solong without love, they understandlove only as a need. They see theirhearts as empty places that will befilled by love, and they begin to lookat love as something that flows tothem rather than from them.The first blush of new love is filledto overflowing, but as their lovecools, they revert to seeing theirlove as need. They cease to be someonewho generates love and instead becomesomeone who seeks love.They forget that the secret of love isthat it is a gift, and that it can bemade to grow only by giving it away.Remember this, and keep it to yourheart. Love has its own time, its ownseasons, and its own reason for comingand going. You cannot bribe it orcoerce it, or reason it into saying.You can only embrace it when itarrives and give it away when it comesto you. But if it chooses to leavefrom your heart or from the heart ofyour lover, there is nothing you cando and there is nothing you should do.Love always has been and always willbe a mystery.Be glad that it came to live for amoment in your life.